I saw this — ironically? — on Twitter this week, and I thought it was really true and also really encouraging. Something I certainly need to be more wary of in my own life. And I think I’m talking more about the studying another’s excellencies than studying my own infirmities.
I loved these two quotes as well.
C. S. Lewis says it best: “Since it is so likely that they will meet cruel enemies, let them at least have heard of brave knights and heroic courage. Otherwise you are making their destiny not brighter but darker.”
That Lewis quote could not possibly be more true.
Catherine’s experience helps prove that reading to our kids teaches them to think, make connections, and communicate. Reading aloud doesn’t just open windows. It flings wide the doors of opportunities far outside the scope of language and literature.
The single most important thing (to me) to teach our kids is to understand how to communicate well, have self-awareness and be able to make connections. I can think of no better medium than reading aloud.
I recently stumbled across a book called the Read-Aloud Family. It’s intriguing so far, and I’ll probably be posting quotes from it on here intermittently. Here are three that hit me early on.
Trelease advocates reading aloud to kids especially when they can read for themselves. He goes so far as to say that if teachers and parents experience a shortage of time and can’t fit in reading aloud, they should “steal [time] from other subjects that are not as essential as reading, which includes pretty much everything else.”2Read-Aloud Family
So as a mother and as a writer, let me urge you to read to them, read to them, read to them. For if we are careless in the matter of nourishing the imagination, the world will pay for it. The world already has. -Katherine Paterson, A Sense of WonderRead-Aloud Family
I read aloud to my kids because I know that my years with them are short. Because I long for a deep, soulful, real connection with each of them. And because I hardly want to spend these precious years waiting for the walrus, missing every ant moment while I wait. When my head hits the pillow each night, I want to know that I have done the one most important thing: I have fostered warm, happy memories and created lifelong bonds with my kids—even when the rest of life feels hard.Read-Aloud Family
I often find that the throwaway stuff of smart people (or maybe just the setup stuff) is the stuff I end up remembering. Like this from Seth Godin about lifelong learning, which was just setting up something on lifelong community.
Lifelong learning is never finished, and achieving the mindset isn’t easy, because the existing bias toward competence makes it socially unattractive. It requires us to acknowledge that we don’t know enough on our way to learning more.Seth Godin
This part has stuck with me: because the existing bias toward competence makes it socially unattractive.
We want to be good at what we do, and we’re scared to be bad. But we were always once bad at anything we’re now good at which means we either embraced how bad we were or displayed extraordinary confidence (arrogance?) in whatever discipline that was.
As I prepped for the 2019 PGA Championship at Bethpage Black, I came across something from one of Bethpage’s original creators, golf architect A.W. Tillinghast. He was asked to rank the best courses in California, of which he had built many, but he declined.
With thanks I must regretfully decline this opportunity to lead with my chin. Although I have formed conclusions I would consider it extremely bad taste for one, so long associated with course designing and construction in the East, to make any comparisons.Tillinghast.net
But here’s the money quote.
As I grow older I appreciate the fact that for general publication there are some questions that need a whole lot of letting alone.”Tillinghast.net
How often would I be helped by adhering to the idea that “there are some questions that need a whole lot of letting alone”? The answer: very often.
I recently read this post on the movie Tolkien, and while the entirety of the post was about fellowship, the part that caught my heart was about friendship. It was this beautiful introduction to what the actual piece was about.
The film keenly observes the specific circumstantial alchemy that gave rise to the languages, landscapes, and longings of Middle Earth. But it also observes the general human need for kindred spirits, comrades-in-arms, cohorts to spur passion and purpose, friends to live and love and die alongside.TGC
I thought this on the future of social media and how we might differentiate socioeconomically was so fascinating.
Odell believes that this sort of change will nonetheless reverberate, that it will revive support for noncommercial public spaces that benefit everyone. “If you can afford to pay a different kind of attention, you should,” she writes.
Newport quotes the comedian Bill Maher, who, two years ago, on his HBO show “Real Time,” said, “Checking your likes is the new smoking.” In the past year, both Twitter and Facebook have faced waves of bad press. For all its current ubiquity, social media might someday occupy a status akin to cigarettes, which are peddled as a pleasure and a relief to the lower classes but which élite Americans largely attempt to avoid. [New Yorker]
Thinking about thinking sounds like the name of a ridiculous self-help book that would (maybe I should be embarrassed to say) greatly interest me. It’s actually the thesis of a recent post I read that doubles as one of the most important things you, creative worker, or your organization can do.
But few organizations think seriously about thinking, which, after all, really is the fundamental value-producing activity in knowledge work, just as divine communication was the metaphorical money-maker for the pious medievals.
The monks were on to something. Concentration is hard work. It requires, for lack of a better word, more serious attention. [Cal Newport]
I *try* to block off parts of my week just to think because I believe it to be one of the most valuable paths to working smarter (not harder) and probably the biggest way I can add value to my own work and the work of the people around me.
You need friction to come up with new ideas and modify existing revenue streams, yes, but you also need time to think about how exactly you want to implement or build those into your workflow.
I love the idea that leadership and solving interesting problems are the two most important things we can teach our children (other than the Gospel of course). Here’s what Seth Godin wrote about that today as he tied it to technology.
It might be that instead of spending more time looking for a louder platform, you could profit from digging in and doing the hard work of figuring out the change you seek to make. If you’re unable to influence one person in a face to face meeting, all the tech in the world isn’t going to help you change a million people. [Godin]
The fallacy of technology is that you can be ubiquitous, which I confess is certainly compelling. But there is absolutely no value in being ubiquitous if your content and knowledge aren’t good. It’s far more purposeful to be in one place at one time and to own that place with a deep and thorough wisdom of whatever it is that you’re interested in.
Tim Challies wrote this about Christian blogs and Christian bloggers, but I think it applies to everyone who writes for a living, and I especially loved this part.
What we’re convinced is a home run is often a single and what we’re convinced is a single is often a home rum. What I’ve learned over many years of doing this is that some of the articles I thought the weakest were the ones God used in the biggest ways. But I would never have submitted them to a ministry blog, which means readers never would have had the benefit of reading them. How many helpful and biblical articles are sitting unpublished because the writer thought they weren’t good enough? [Challies]
I have found that to be very true in my own work in my own circles, and it’s a reminder that as much as we try to plan and think about the future, it’s never exactly what we expect for it to be.