Tim Keller poses a great question in Walking with God through Pain and Suffering. It’s about how to mature out of “what can God give me” and into “how great is God.”
The answer is not thrilling, but I believe it is correct
How can you get there — how can you move from loving God in a mercenary way toward loving God himself? I’m afraid the primary way is to have hardship come into your life.
I can certainly attest that I love God more now for who He is rather than anything he’s given me or done for me.